I agree that one should be self reliant first and foremost. I find most people to be irritating. The post really wasn’t meant to suggest that people who are not close with their birth family try to adopt anyone as a surrogate. Although for some they need to have people around for some reason. Simply just making a point that the people in your life who really matter will be known to you by their actions. Just because someone is a blood relative does not mean they are someone you need to be around. I can count on one hand of the people I know that are worth having around.