Well I don’t wanna speculate too much as I don’t really know where they come from.
There’s a school of thought that you have to petition Lilith to get a succubus, which seems to work but I’m not sure how succubi got associated with her, maybe by association with Lilitu. Lilith offered me an Incubus once, but it’s not my bag and I politely declined.
I think a whole lot of different types of astral being can interact with humans that way, and succubus is more like a way to interact - a role - rather than a kind of being. So maybe if it interacts with you in tat way and the shoe fits…
Too many unanswered questions for comfort for me.