I’m curious where you got the term “Araneamagia”. To answer some of your questions though, I’ve found veeery little regarding Arachnids and Magick in books. There is a book called Spider Witchcraft by S. Rob on Amazon, however. I’ve not completely read it myself but I will here soon. But other than that, there’s The Scorpion God by Mark Allan Smith and Lilith - Her Rites, Masks and Manifestations by Daemon Barzai. That book on Lilith had a short chapter dedicated to Lilith’s Spider Aspect. It includes and invocation, Evocation, and meditation, as well as a sigil specifically Lilith’s Spider Aspect. With Asenath Mason’s newest book, Tunnels of Set I noticed she talks about Arachne a lot. One other thing regarding books, the author of Liber Hirudo, Oizus, was supposedly going to write a “spider book”. I tried looking for it but came up with nothing.
From my experience, it doesn’t matter what gender you are. I’m a dude and am heeeavily oriented with the Feminine divine aspect of the Arachnea current. So it ultimately depends on the person.