“Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism nor capitulation. Just the opposite. True power resides in submission. A power that comes from within.” — Elif Safak
this is the 18+ thread Who’s into BDSM?
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Switch
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I tend to be on the sub side if i trust someone if not I will Domme.
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Its a couple things for me that make the difference. Just have to see what each of you bring to the table and how well things works within that dynamic.
I didnt always believe in switches, I thought it was just something subs would say when they thought they wanted to try dom. But the more you go through life you see how people change and relationships change and its just a part of growing more as an individual and a person. What you need inside your core will change and sometimes your needs flip back and forth. But its all ok.
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That makes loads of sense. I truly am someone different with each partner i experience. So not being set in a certain way and being able to be true to myself is freeing.
It’s been ages since I got the 18 and up spicy peeps to do this. let’s do it again 
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== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Ageplayer
100% Non-monogamist
100% Rigger
100% Sadist
100% Daddy/Mommy
100% Degrader
97% Dominant
94% Owner
94% Master/Mistress
92% Experimentalist
89% Voyeur
88% Brat tamer
86% Exhibitionist
84% Primal (Hunter)
49% Switch
27% Submissive
24% Primal (Prey)
22% Rope bunny
14% Masochist
7% Brat
5% Degradee
0% Boy/Girl
0% Pet
0% Slave
0% Vanilla
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That was interesting
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It’s kinda fun to see what we get. Mine changes sometimes.
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I used to be more of a switch, but as I have gotten older I have slowly had my tastes drift towards me being fully Dom.(for the most part)
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I change a lot too. Seems like right now I am really a slave 
Agree… I think the person you are connecting with plays a huge part of the sexual dynamic in the relationship. I had one partner who I would be submissive too, while most of the time I’m the dominant. I also think the labels used in BDSM and BDSM in general have been misrepresented due to Hollywood’s portrails and the mentality porn uses
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All of this. i’m in a leather sisterhood that we are huge on education, and we go to all the cons and events for BDS I’m all across the country. To help people learning understand what safe kink really is.
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Why did I hear that song by Brittany Spears in my head 
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Which one?
Yes. Like most of the time I’m totally submissive. But it seems the more confident I get with expressing myself and depending on how comfortable I am with my partner I can be the dominant one.
Or if I can tell that who I’m with isn’t comfortable in a dominant role.
But, overall I’m more comfortable and content being the submissive one.