Wow, that was quite the read.
I need to make some disclaimers before responding: Im a noob, so take this reply as you may.
I feel its hard to respond without it looking like trying to push you into a certain direction, so I will try to just state my experiences.
And lastly: again, Im a noob. Which means I honestly cant tell whether my interactions have been with Lilith or my own mind. I do think those were genuine connections but I think its fair to point that out when replying to something which seems it could be very important to you.
So, anyway. In my experience the unpleasant or dangerous aspects of Lilith exist to teach and help us understand. Kinda a cliché thing to say but its true as far as Im concerned. To me it seems like she uses appaling visions to get us back on track with our true self.
Also, in my experience, she doesnt turn you into a sex fiend. For me, I came to an incredibly more healthy view on sexuality and masturbation through Lilith. Ive also been a porn addict since around the age of 14 and only managed to quit that with her help. I actually wrote a lengthy journal entry about just how that happened a few days ago: Chris' Journal - #6 by Chriss
I could write more but I think the most throughout and accurate description of Liliths personality that my noob ass can give is already in that journal entry.