@Mulberry once shared a similar experience on here, though she would not call it “romantic obsession”; she calls it “love attachment.” She was actually in a reciprocal relationship w/ that man, her husband, and after he departed too early, she vowed to get him back—and she did so in a new lifetime. In her case, she did not become an “intranquil spirit.”
Yes. This is what enlightenment aims for. It’s the purpose behind getting to know yourself in as great a depth s possible.
When you really know yourself, to the point of remembering you you really are and your past lives as well as current psychology, you know why you’re here, and where you’re going. Whether, when you know that, you choose to reincarnate again is then up to you.
So, I call bullshit on this misuse pf the term “karma” - this is not what it means, and I think “learning lessons” is a poor way to put it.
I think what beings do, broadly in every kind of manifestation of being, is build experience. Experience can bring learning but not always and they’re not the same thing. So saying we’re all here learning is oversimplified imo.
What you have is emotional attachments and patterns of energy you built as you go, which make what you attract to you and the probability of people and places being around you greater or smaller. This steers your experiences, but it’s a misuse of the concept to imply karma is some kind of punishment, and mostly am abusers excuse to blame the victim, or the victim blaming themselves.
This is also experience though, so that’s also in your own purview to understand, know yourself and change if you choose. These are things you have not who you are, that is important to know.
So here:
You don’t have to. It’s also a valid experience to abandon whatever you’re up to here and do something else. But if you knew why you were doing it you m…