Aside from the helpful advice everyone has already offered, could I just say, “Nice call, OP”! Being aware and recognizing the truth of the situation, even though it IS heartbreaking and difficult, is already a step towards the right direction. While I agree there are really times when you just cannot help who you have feelings for, you can, ultimately, choose/decide how to act (or not act) on them. And even though it’s still a long way to go, kudos to you for making the decision to step back!
I honestly don’t think so. Magick’s effectiveness/success depends on the practitioner’s intentions, emotions and such. And while it’s good that you are now considering potential new options (I was actually quite concerned when I read in your original post about comparing other people to this man, as it would prove a very unhealthy habit in the long run if not resolved), I would just like to ask: why the immediate focus on others? Cliche as it is, isn’t this more of a time you should focus on yourself? Not only for processing and healing from the heartbreak, but also truly ask and get in touch with yourself. The situation could be turned into an opportunity to learn important lessons from, or at least that’s what I’ve seen in similar experiences throughout part-time work as an intuitive tarot reader and counselor in the past lol. For starters, why do you seek emotionally unavailable connections? Why do you feel seemingly most satisfied/attracted to a person who you are aware of cannot fully reciprocate the love you’re more than willing to keep pouring out? How do you see/define/feel about your self-worth? and other questions you can only answer yourself. It’s okay if you don’t answer those here at all. I just hope said answers provide you with clarity and inspiration for further introspection and improvement if needed.
And that’s what makes the situation harder, I think? May I suggest not “fighting” the emotions but instead letting yourself feel them and finding healthy alternatives to deal with them instead so you can, gradually, release said emotions? It could be a simple jog in the park, making art out of it, letting yourself binge on your favorite book/show, etc. Sometimes IMO, there’s no magickal tip or cure for the heartbreak. You just gotta face the emotions and ugly-cry it all out lol. Also, now may be a good time to reach out to families, friends, other loved ones or a similar-minded/supportive community to remind yourself that: (1) You are not alone and; (2) Romantic and sexual love is not the end all be all of love, nor is it the end all be all of you. I sincerely think your romantic and/or sexual experiences don’t determine your value as a person.
I have no experience with the relationship bit because I just naturally let a potential person find me lol, and for other people I only worked on a sexual attraction spell for them, nothing really stable/serious. But I think you can search for that in the forum as there are lots of posts about such already. For cord-cutting and removal of unnecessary feelings/thoughts though, Archangel Michael remains very reliable and effective time and time again. Very easy to call as well.
King Belial too, but that is if you don’t mind brutal honesty and a straight-up kick to the arse when it comes to all the BS you’re holding onto.
Goodluck and do take care of yourself, OP! Also, why not introduce yourself to the forum? Even a brief but clear intro would do.