(To the mods: if this is repetitive please feel free to delete!)
Obligatory warning: this is a long-winded post, mostly because I’ve been wandering around the forum today, had a lot of thoughts, and the LARP discussion got shut down This is mostly for the new people, but also anyone who’s decided on exploring a different area of magick that they’re not used to!
TLDR: Will this benefit you now (temporary) vs later (long run), is what you’re expecting to happen unreasonable given your inexperience or your current state of mind, and is what this spirit is promising you shady/unrealistic?
So, I feel like especially with the state of the world right now, everyday we’re getting more and more people exploring their spirituality and possibly the path, and honestly that’s awesome! Welcome to BALG!
However, chances are if you’re new to this forum, or just the path in general, you’re probably reading some posts and going “man, that doesn’t sound like what I’m going through at all” or “why am I not capable of such feats like E.A. Koetting or the BALG mods/regulars?” and feeling a bit no bueno about the situation.
First, let’s address inexperience! If this is your first time AT ALL working with magick/deities/etc, it’s perfectly normal to not be able to ascend into the astral plane or communicate with spirits. Many of the posters you see on the site are people who have put A LOT of time and effort into honing their practice, and you’re definitely not going to just get there in a day (but someday! Keep working hard! Check out the tutorial page posted by the mods!). Furthermore, while it is very rare for someone completely new to path to be able to suddenly achieve all their wildest dreams, etc, etc. Chances are, the person is probably LARP-ing, so don’t let that get to you, and keep at it! Practice makes improvement
Next let’s talk about coping mechanisms and mindset! This is probably more something to do with psychology more than anything else, but it’s important to keep in mind what your goal is when it comes to magick and all it’s facets. Most likely, your goal involves improving your current reality, and as ye old adage goes: sometimes just because you want something, doesn’t mean it’s something that will benefit you in the long run. I feel like this especially applies when it comes to petitioning certain deities/spirits. At some point you might run into a situation where they either don’t answer, or just flat out tell you “no”. Or, you might be doing a spell that doesn’t seem to give results. Instead of getting upset about it, you might want to consider if that request/spell is something that you actually should be putting energy into as opposed to things that will benefit your workings in the long run. Like, for the record, I’m an extremely petty person, but I promise you, you’re probably better off not putting in a bunch of time and energy trying to get back with an ex who no longer is in your life, etc.
(This isn’t to say you should “be the better person”, I’m just saying, there’s always time after you’ve reached a certain level of experience )
And finally, this is mostly for new people who are interesting in evocation/deities: is the spirit you’re talking to a parasite/thought form as opposed to the real deal? There’s already a few threads about how to spot the difference so I won’t go too into it, but I want to reemphasize that more often than not, the real spirits will focus more on helping you improve your spellwork/path/life as a mentor, as opposed to being a caricature that fulfills every single thing you want, regardless of how it impacts your life. Fakes will make you feel like you have chuunibyou syndrome all over again, and I promise, the temporary satisfaction of feeling like a main character with no (or even negative) real results is NOT WORTH compared to a teacher that will challenge and guide you, leading to actual improvements.
There you have it! Sorry it was so long Formulating thoughts isn’t exactly my strong suit, but I hope if you’re new to this site and feeling discouraged, this might lift your spirits a bit.