If someone told you they attained this goal, would you (or any reasonably well-balanced person) believe them, or think they were crazy?
The example of a dead spouse: “Joyce my lovely wife whose funeral we all attended three months ago is back alive and baking some cookies, why don’t you come say hi?”
Versus, “I started studying spiritualism and shamanism and have been able to hold some conversations with Joyce, it’s eased my grief a little and I know we will always love each other.”
The second is possible, the first, there may be some kind of observer effect but that’s a guideline to begin with IMO.
Or, “I was sitting in the doorway I sleep in, covered in filth and hadn’t had a bath in 6 months, high on glue, when Angelina Jolie picked me up in her limo, licked me clean, and gave me a job as CEO of Apple.”
Versus, “My life was shitty so I did some spells to bring myself a lucky break to get a home and the right kind of help, and then to find an employer who’ll respect how far I’ve come and not hold it against me.” < This is believable. This kind of thing happens to people.
IMO the best kind of magick usually imitates what we think of as really good LUCK plus the potential to talk to spirits.
Bigger stuff is entirely possible, I’ve done it, but for now these are useful guidelines.
(And actually Angelina Jolie IS a bit weird, so, keep the faith if this is what anyone’s holding out for! )