I’m wondering about your methods of address or approaching spirits you are trying to work with. I’m far from well versed in this, but it seems to me to be implied at least traditionally that a magician can and should command and control whatever it is they are trying to evoke and work with, constraining them, issuing demands, and just generally bossing them around. At the risk of sounding naive, I can;t imagine they would like that sort of attitude much, and for obvious reasons I would think it’s generally a bad idea of make one angry. Besides why should anything int he non-physical world do what human beings rudely demand of them anyway.
On the other hand though I wonder if such an approach is actually for our own safety. I understand that many dangers people perceive are very real and we do need to be in control of our workings or risk a real situation. I can image how many spirits may not be much different from us in that establishing your own authority works. Still though would a spirit not resent an authority figure, like most humans do on some level. I would imagine being resented by a spirit could lead nowhere good.
As I get more into my first attempts myself, I want to be on the right side of that line between being that overly entitled and well resented person, that is bound to find trouble, and a doormat to be walked over and worse by the non-physical world.
Personally I like the thought of saying “welcome” to them, inviting them into my space instead of ordering them to be there, saying thank you, and using phrasing like “think you can help me, or answer this question” instead “do this do that, at once.”
How do many of you actually speak to your chosen spirits?