I just realized why my magick is taking so long to manifest…
If you want them back, stop calling them your ex.
Call them by name, call them a nickname, call them “my loved one”, call them “an important person”, hell, even calling them “my friend” is safer than calling them “my ex”.
If you call them “your ex”, you are sending them away with your energy. It will complicate things. You want to call them something that implies that they are still in your life. You want to call them something that, if you referred to them as that in a sentence, people would assume you were in regular contact.
“Ex” is a word with very final-feeling energy. “Ex” = “gone”.