Stop saying "my ex". Why Your Words matter in Magick

I just realized why my magick is taking so long to manifest…

If you want them back, stop calling them your ex.
Call them by name, call them a nickname, call them “my loved one”, call them “an important person”, hell, even calling them “my friend” is safer than calling them “my ex”.

If you call them “your ex”, you are sending them away with your energy. It will complicate things. You want to call them something that implies that they are still in your life. You want to call them something that, if you referred to them as that in a sentence, people would assume you were in regular contact.

“Ex” is a word with very final-feeling energy. “Ex” = “gone”.


39 posts were split to a new topic: The problem with “Get my ex back”

It will do more than that. It will guarantee failure. Very good insight. Our choice of words is important. I think a good discussion can happen on the subject of why our choice of words matters without ever touching on whether getting an ex back is a good idea.


I’ll give a small hint. In NLP, we have the concept of reframing. To call something by a different name is to change the context and how we feel about something. Also, every word we speak has chains of associations that come into play whether we intend it or not. Those chains of meaning are the true meaning of correspondences


Exactly, some words are connected with negative emotions and places you in the position of been a victim. What you give out to the “universe” is that what you want actually makes you suffer. You cause a PTSD to your own self.


X as a symbol often means hazard, or no entry, so good point. :thinking:


It’s those organic chains of associations that affects our subconscious the most. These are the ones embedded in our culture that we are raised in. Occultists try to mimic this by having students memorize chains of correpondence. These are artificial and forced and don’t work nearly as well.


Oh I thought It means crossroads, eternity and the end of time, interesting. I guess culture also plays a huge role. (we associated it differently)

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I think the crossroads thing is a negative meaning for relationships, like “We reached a crossroads in our relationship and decided to split up.”

It also means kiss, but only when someone’s not there, like sending a card, SMS, or something.


Thats an interesting point! I would rather read it as we have the same “core” (love-> symbolized by the intersection ) but each move in our own direction (healthy relationship-> the lines).

Guess our cultural programming and perspective gives certain things power and takes it away from others. I only have this “positive” association because I have been meditating on a point for 3 months now (Regardie exercise) and recently started the line meditation.

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I tweaked the title a bit. So maybe this thread gets a bit more attention and not lumped in with stuff on how to get an ex back (which has it’s own chain of associations guaranteed to see this buried in obscurity).


Lol. What, you mean like, ‘dumped’?

Yeah dumped. People will dump this thread because on the surface it’s a “get my ex back” thread.


Yep, while I was typing my reply (which is now on the other thread) I didn’t see all the other comments coming through and how it was turning into two threads in one so good shout @Lady_Eva and @Faustus.

Why do your words matter in magick? Because you should want your words to adhere to the thing you want and not have them work in the opposite direction.

With lust for results, it’s a case of adhering to the condition of what is not wanted instead of being in the act of accepting or choosing the change you want, hence the lust or just the wrong choice of words keep the result from you.

Accepting and choosing well chosen words acts like the magnet to the thing wanted.


Same here. I was responding to a post the OP wrote and didn’t realize my response wasn’t even on topic and was moved to the newer thread.

Sorry for my part in derailing @Lady_Eva


No problem, topics wander, that’s why they’ve had split-topic functions since… well, forever. :smiley:

If I see a post go onto the origin topic soon after a split, I just move it over, no biggie.