I wrote a husband list of all the qualities I want in a mate, and last year I started daydreaming about my future husband. I even gave him a name. A few months ago I saw a guy in passing who absolutely took my breath away. I even told my friends and family about him, he feels so familiar whenever I occasionally see him around my neighborhood. Well, come to find out that he is the son of an elderly neighbor of mine, she likes me and agreed to introduce us. According to her, her son is recently divorced, single, and looking. His name is the same name as my daydream husband I am convinced I manifested this guy into my life. I want a relationship with him, and I want it to WORK.
Since my last relationship ended I have been learning a lot about how to not make the same mistakes in my next relationship as I have made in my past relationships. I’ve been learning all about healthy communication, boundaries, what to share and not to share, how to set an appropriate pace and tone for the relationship, etc. So I feel like I have a good handle on all of the mundane things I should do to optimize my chances of things working out.
But, this guy literally feels like my destiny, so I’d like to add some magick from the beginning for a little extra razzle dazzle. I think a lot of people fail in relationship magick because they use it to try to repair things after the damage is done (myself included). My guess is things would be far more effective if I employed magick from the very beginning to make our relationship as good as possible and maintain that energy throughout.
I plan on getting to know this guy and comparing him to my husband list. If he checks off my boxes (and I believe he will, I literally think I manifested him so I’m very confident), I would like for us to have a committed, long-term, monogamous relationship, and possibly marriage. I’m in my mid-30s and he’s in his mid-40s, so we’re not getting any younger. Why waste time if we’re compatible?
ASSUMING HE MATCHES MY LIST, I would like the type of relationship where he is head over heels for me and wants to commit exclusively to me quickly- like within the first month of dating. My lease on my apartment is up in 5 months- I’d like him to ask me to move in with him at that point instead of having to renew my lease or get a new place. I’d like him to propose marriage within 6 months of dating, and be married within 1 year (although marriage is not a deal breaker). I want our relationship to be harmonious and passionate, with lots of love and affection- with him loving me more than I love him, and showing me how devoted he is to me through his words as well as his actions. Basically I want this guy to be enamored with me and treat me like a Queen.
Magically speaking (or if you have any mundane advice), what can I do to maximize my chances of creating the above? I’ve quite soured on working with demons due to lack of results in many previous rituals- though I supposed I’d be open to trying, since this time around I don’t feel so dependent on results. I don’t feel I “need” to to magick to get what I want with this guy, but I think it can tip the scales even more in my favor, so this experiment is really more just for fun. I’m really into subliminals, EFT/tapping scripts, and working with Saints, but I’m open to hearing any and all advice from people who are working on are achieved something similar to what I’m looking for.