A good friend of mine was initiated as a Mambo in Haitian Vudou and left the scene because of the corrupt business obsession that permeates the practice in her area. She practiced solo for years. One day she decided to stop practicing. She respectfully did her goodbyes with the Loa and carefully dismantled her altars. She didn’t have any problems. She also mainly worked with Dantor though, and Dantor is the only Loa I will work with. She is relaxed and forgiving and incredible as long as your intent is good and true. My friend hasn’t had any problems.
My boyfriends family comes from a strong Santeria background being from Cuba. I don’t know shit about Santeria, still. Lol. A while back when I knew even less I found the Elegua heads on accident. You know that guy showed up in my dream that night. I was walking through the woods and a caped thing with dark skin and white chalk on it’s face was following me, hopping between trees hiding. I was like, wtf… Lol, but wasn’t alarmed. I thought it was a kid. Eventually it caught up to me, and when I turned around and called to it nicely to come out, it did, it said, “Why won’t you play with us?” At that point in my dream I was kinda creeped out and confused because this chalk faced robe thing was approaching me like a playful kid. And I woke up. I learned about Elegua and the heads shortly after when I told my boyfriend. That’s apparently that spirits playful nature and I was right in not sensing anything malicious despite the creepy appearance.
Here’s the issue with Vudou and Santeria… the damned people. My boyfriend’s family is fucking insane. They use Santeria and the Orishas like their personal attack dogs to carry out their petty little ridiculous dramas daily. It’s like that teen mom reality show mixed with Jerry Springer mixed with every other dumbass show you’ve ever seen, but they sick the spirits after each other. Even within families. It’s absolutely ridiculous. His mom has told me from her own mouth, that’s the culture, at least with her upbringing in Cuba and Miami. And there are Orishas and Loa that are mischievous in nature and really are entertained by that stupid drama, and they know it and petition them. Growing up in that in that kind of environment saturated by dumbassery and spirits will make anyone crazy. His mom is kinda crazy like that. And I get the same vibe from that poor guys writing.
Go slow. Research what you’re working with. Be respectful. Research some more. Follow your intuition. And you should generally be fine.