Ok, I’ll be honest here. I want to manipulate someone magically. I listened to Koetting’s video on this subject recently and honestly it struck me as a good starting point, a place to get my feet wet in something a bit darker than I am used to. (Though as he I feel so rationally explained it, it’s not actually so dark a thing at all. We are all manipulative and manipulated every day just living our lives.) My basic situation here is that I have a couple of people who have practically taken it over, invaded my home, my personal space, my time, caused me to spend endless amounts of money and run up my bills. Having tried everything to get them to stop this with no success I came upon the manipulation video, and it occurred to me that I want to make them WANT to move away and give me my life back. I reason that it;s hardly “bad” to do this anyway, to manipulate them into leaving since they are clearly already manipulating ME psychologically. Is my ethical reasoning correct here? Also in doing this, I feel like I would actually be helping them as well as myself, since that sort of on-going dependency on another human being is not healthy or normal and I could see them then learn to stand alone.
Now having decided I am really going to do this eventually, I am slightly unclear as to WHO to actually direct my working at. Since one clearly makes the final decisions in life and the other seemingly happily follows their lead, it makes far more sense to me to direct my will at the leader than at the follower. The follower will follow once he leaves town because I made him want to. But… if they do leave, even with use of a ritual, they will need somewhere to go to live, (the obstacle that kept them here in the first place.) Should I then instead be directing at at someone who will take them in? This is where things get complicated. Ip;m admittedly not sure exactly how to proceed with this.
Advice and considerations anyone?