She’s got a boyfriend but she’s almost breaking up. It started normal but now I’ve come up to a point where she’s sending me hearts and kisses. I’ve been working with the archangel Haniel to make her love me but all the time she doesn’t start the conversation herself. It’s always me who does.
How can I make the situation hurry up? Or is it wiser to embrace the patience? I think she has not decided yet.
I think that this is true. Thinking back there had been only two male friends in my life I’ve felt sexually attracted to, everybody else was on “brother” terms with me and you want to keep your brother out of your bed.
Get this then: it was the fact I liked him that made his advances feel so disgusting. Once you’re in that safe-zone of a great guy, a friend, someone we trust, “brother from another mother” (etc) there’s very little chance of getting out of it and becoming an attractive would-be mate.
Most women can get hot for a relative stranger, or even someone whose personality we dislike. I fancied someone at my workplace one time and I couldn’t stand his stupid personality, but if I’d been less shy, and things had been different, I’d have tried to bed him.
if she’s attracted to you when you meet, she’ll turn her hips towards you, so they’re facing you straight-on even if she’s looking away, also her feet, I mean I’m not young and very happily not single, but even I catch myself doing this in public near attractive men!
If she’s NOT doing that, watch if there’s a man in the group she is angling towards, especially her hips - he’s the one she wants. It’s not a conscious thing we do, and most younger women won’t even know they’re doing it.
Do some reading on the dreaded friendzone as well, there’s a lot of crap advice out there (“smile more, send her texts constantly” are the worst) but there’s also a lot of useful stuff.
And remember, she’s not a man, she’s got very different psychological wiring, and sites that pretend otherwise are giving bad advice.