i just have to fucking laugh at some of the schadenfreude on this board sometimes.
it’s easy to watch dani suffer and point and laugh and go what a loser.
a little harder to admit that every single fucking one of us has been in his shoes at one point or another, and some more than once.
the almightiness of the mocking internet mage never ceases to amaze me.
but anyway…
dani, you were actually doing a lot of magick and it actually worked. but the magick you were doing was in the opposite direction of what you consciously wanted.
instead of doing the law of attraction, you were doing the law of repellence and you were feeding the repellent energy every day with strong emotions so that forced her right on out of your life.
you were afraid of her leaving you and she left you. your emotions projected onto your reality.
i want to get you to understand how emotions charge your magick. let me ask you a question. how would you feel if she walked in the door right now and said she only wanted you?
i want you to really feel like she walked into the room, walked up to you from behind and said she’s back with you. like she never left you and she was always in love with you the whole time.
no, i don’t want you to keep reading. i want you to actually STOP for a minute and IMAGINE THAT.
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i’ll wait.
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now.
you see that feeling? notice how it changes on the inside of your body. the knot in your stomach and the cold feeling in your solar plexus is gone. instead you relax, breathe a bit deeper, and feel warmer. THAT is what you want to feel when you think of bringing her back. not the fear.
if you speak faith but feel fear, the fear is going to program your rituals and you are not going to get what you want. it is really as simple as that. you only get out of your magick what you put into it.
you have to break your fear trance and build an attracting trance based on better feels than the ones you have now or she’ll stay gone.
that’s why i said. you’re pushing her away with your fucked up attitude. fear is fucked up. i wasn’t calling YOU fucked up. you probably read it that way but no. you’re just a human being but your emos are messing with you. i’m saying your FEAR is fucked up. because it doesn’t give you what you want.
i’m not about making judgments on people. ithere is no benefit to fingerpointing for me. i want to know how magick works. and i’m telling you that at some level the magick you are doing isn’t helping you.
love is about attraction. i keep saying that. you attract her. you don’t force her. you don’t block her. you don’t manipulate or browbeat her. you attract her. and you have to have vibes that attract her to make her want to come to you.
what kind of vibes attract women? well, it depends on the woman because they all want different things. but in general, conviction and confidence based on the fact that your life is so bitchin that she’d be a fucking idiot to not want to be a part of it.
how you think you feel about her is actually a reflection of how you feel about yourself at some level. your MINDSET lets you know what you believe is possible, and if your mindset is full of fear that she’s the only one for you and you’re losing her, your one-itis and anxiety are not giving you a fighting chance.
you have to replace that one-itis with choice. there are 3 billion women on the planet. even if your girl is 1 in a million, just by virtue of numbers alone that means there are 3,000 other girls in the world EXACTLY like her in every way.
you have to replace yor anxiety with conviction that you’re worth her staying with you and confidence that you can keep her.
those are the minimum mindsets you need to turn things around.
there is a lot more there for you.
my suggestion to you is not to go doing black magick to try to force her into your life. instead i’d like to ask you to read the way of the superior man: a spiritual guide to mastering the challenges of woman, work, and sexual desire by david deida. he breaks down exactly the mindset you will need if you want to make sense of your love life as a man.
i’d also suggest you read i steal wives: a serial adulterer reveals the real reasons more and more happily married women are cheating by sven erlandson. he tells you exactly why a woman cheats and what to do about it.
in your mindstate you may want to read the second book first to put you at ease, and then read the first book in order to learn how to be the kind of man a woman will want to stay with. between the two books you will have all that you need to begin rebuilding your love life in an intelligent way.
i’m going to suggest that you not go doing love bindings from a point of insecurity. whenever someone tries to control others without being in control of themselves, they end up making a problem worse not better. that’s not a moral judgment, it’s just not efficient to ruin and deface other people out of fear and abandonment issues. i say that from experience.