Everytime someone asks about an ex coming back I almost want to ask “why?” what is so great about them that you want them back? Especially if they left you and showed you that they lack loyalty. Is this a female thing that I missed during my lifetime? 9/10 times its a female obsessing over a guy. A guy she may not have seen for yeeeeeeears. Sometimes decaaaaaaaades. Yes I said decaaaaaaaaades. Please don’t be her. There’s often a romanticization of a circumstance or an agrandizement about why the whole world wouldn’t let him be with her when in fact; he just wasn’t that interested!
Maybe I’m just lucky that I didn’t get into magic until after my boy craziness ended. I get it. That first month the wound is fresh and you would give anything to be with that person. But I promise 9/10 times a woman is stuck on one guy he’s out talking to 5 to 6 other chicks just to entertain him and erase you off of his mind. But yet women waste time energy and money trying to get a guy back who isn’t a match. Has anyone desperately wanted an ex back but then in hindsight realized that it was a blessing that it didn’t happen because what you each wanted was not the same and that person would have actually made things harder and miserable in the end? I know I have! I was stuck on a guy once even a year later I had that wishful thinking voice “I feel like we’re going to cross paths again.” Now not so much. I have deeper interest and realized the guy was an A grade asshole who only had an in because I was naive and didn’t think much of myself but had we stayed together I just know he would have annialated any of my self esteem I had left! Did we love each other? Hell yeah! Should we have been together or ever? Hell no!