You could look at it this way:
I’ve never been physically advanced enough to be native to “slutty clothing.” If I wear it, I’m using it in a manipulative way to strive for a result. Anybody I snag with that clothing is not going to stick around long because I don’t have the physical energy to sustain dressing like that. I’m not the real thing. All I’m doing is ensuring disappointment for both parties.
There are people who are so physical, they ARE native to slutty clothing, and it’s not slutty to them, it’s just what they feel comfortable in, because they have such a high physical tolerance. They’re not really trying at it. Anybody those people snag with that clothing will stick around because the clothing is sustainable for them and the person who’s attracted to it is a natural fit. It’s an entire lifestyle they’re breathing 24/7. They’re the real thing. It’s not something they’re doing to try to hook someone. They’d be wearing it even if they weren’t looking for a partner. That’s why it’s never going to blow up in their face.
If I wear slutty clothing, I’m trying to be someone I’m not. I’m seeing the natives get results, I’m studying them, I’m following a formula I’m projecting onto them, and I’m mistaking their natural lifestyle for manipulation, so then I go and manipulate, which ultimately results in failure.
Just replace the clothing with spells.
When you use any kind of manipulation, you’re automatically attracting someone who’s not a natural fit. This is a recipe for dangerous situations like abuse, rape, etc. It also is the reason behind cheating.