You’re both basically trying to convert each other, and this IMO shows that we tend to have core personality traits then bolt on the philosophy most likely to give them expression.
I don’t really have any advice for you, except request you see yourself in them, and their desire to do what they honestly believe is best inside yourself, and try to honour that positive intention, even if the forms it takes are different.
Maybe you could try explaining that you respect them for trying to do what’s best, but need them to respect that you are finding your own way and doing the same as well?
Unfortunately, only those who wish to follow will (and even if they do, would it really be ascend at that point?). But I do wish you the best of luck as far as your choice being respected. It took almost a decade and a funeral for it to be a minor step towards that direction in my family (I am very much the black sheep, although I do not mind at this point). That being said, I would encourage you to examine your situation as others have stated. Being accepted by family is not worth possibly losing a roof over your head. But ultimately, you are the only one who knows what is best for you.
Just as spirits do I lead those who are searching. I drop my philosophies here and there and those who are awake crave it. Those who don’t? I aid my friends with rites when they need a lift. Some have taken to the path wholeheartedly while others think I have some weird stuff going on with my “stigils”… It’s funny yet some are buying into it more and more as each reading comes true and lives tend to improve
Everyone else is encouraged so long as their path leads them to peace. Me? Power is the only way to true peace