All I did was look through a list of spirits, write down the names of the ones who stuck out to me the most (as in, I got a bit of an excited fuzzy feeling, or they felt “familiar” somehow) and research them to see if any of them speak to you further.
You can also reach out to spirits that seem to keep popping up at you online or through your life. Do you scroll through this forum and notice a certain spirit’s name being repeated throughout your research? Maybe that is a sign for you to contact them.
Another thing is to find a spirit who is similar to you in personality as well as who you share zodiac signs, planets, elements, etc. with.
Use your intuition, let it guide you to a spirit that resonates with you, write down their sigil and meditate on it for a few days, envisioning your love for them as well as the power your feel within yourself. Sometimes I feel that I should give the sigil some sunlight to infuse it with the sun’s energy, sometimes I feel that I should anoint it with an essential oil or cover it with certain herbs or flower petals to charge it – but before any of that, I feel that in order to get to know them and connect with them before contact, I sleep with the sigil cradled to my chest for as long as it feels necessary.
Once you feel you are ready, open the sigil, make a little altar for them, and meditate on their Enn. Keep doing this whether you think you feel their presence or not. Just because you can’t sense them does not mean it didn’t work. Give an offering, thank them, and don’t banish them – they will know when the ritual is over. They are smart. They can choose when to show up and how long to hang around before leaving.
One thing that helped me develop a deeper relationship was to ask them to come visit me in my dreams.
You can also call upon Satan to send you a demon that will guide you as a beginner. Astaroth and Lucifer are really good to work with and learn from.