Maybe is the way you see the candle.
Whenever I watch a candle or a sigil being burn I don’t look at as if it was diminshing but transmuting, the fire makes the transmutation magick taking your intent while the wax is a “sacrifice” that slowly transform into something else.
Your desires doesn’t actually happen because of the candle, it happens because of you, it is more as a reality dinamic between desires and manifestation, a dance which involves both despair emotions and dettachment. So the thing is actually happening inside you and that pulls the strings of the “big fabric” into another universal pattern in which your desire is being satisfied.
The difference is the desire, for reduction in baneful magick and for growing in gainful magick.
For example, there was this guy I hated that lived here, while I was roomless around the house. I used magick to destroy him, physically and socially. At first he was in great shape, had a propper work and almost everybody in the family kind of liked the guy since he was very friendly and charismatic. I was kind of afraid it wasn’t worked but I forgot about it and just contemplate the happenings focusing in more important things like ascent or stuff.
It took around two months to manifest, he started to get tierd and tired, his work wasn’t recognized by his bosses, he ended up parting and drinking too much so he lost his work, and started to basically freeload at my grandma’s and other relatives and everyone started to hate the guy. The guy took a trip a couple days ago and he didn’t even paid the last month so every uncle and aunt came and told me (even that I haven’t spoke a word about it with them) That I had to kick the guy out of the house. It was so cool because they told me I had to do it.
Now I took his room and after today cleaning, it’ll become my headquarters.
For gainful magick, it was the same, my results were not that fast (tho faster than banful magick)… at first, they took a week or soemthing to develop, small coincidences that lead to my new awesome work, my editor finnally finishing my book’s edition, my improvement in speech (for selling) and more girls in my social circles.
And all I did was simple candle magick, using two black candles every time. I did sigil magik for some things but with very simple “set up”.