Yes, it is. But I think working on yourself and discernment of what a relationship is to you, so that you recognize it would help.
Most people don’t have or don’t use this type discernment, that is why you see this mass phenomena of individuals throwing themselves at anyone who pays them attention.
See they aren’t happy inside, either with themselves or something in their life, so they are looking for positive attention, from an outside source.
Many people don’t even realize they do it, I did it- longing for a knight and shining armor and thinking every little nudge of attraction was something to act on, because this might be it.
Others are even less aware and have no conscious awareness that they didn’t really want to fuck that dude, but he said I was hot and we are good friends and there’s definitely feelings between us.
See, we run with that instead of taking the time to discern what we actually feel, what the feelings between us are.
If we sat down and we thought about what that person meant to us, what we thought about them for real, as spouse potential and if we analyzed whether or not it was a fit for us we’d find a lot of wasted sexual/romantic encounters we should have known were a waste of time.
Then let’s talk about our inability to discern whether or not we feel this emotion or attention for real, or we feel it because we don’t have it at home, or because we are starved for that type of attention.
That’s not even getting into people need to work on their accountability, responsibility and self control.
These are all things that energy and magic can influence and make you better at, give you clarity with etc.
Oh then there are boundaries. I have them. I have a husband and I know which things are supposed to occur between us and I don’t let anyone else try to fill that gap.
We do it all the time by talking to our friends about things we don’t talk to our spouse about, telling our siblings or parents what our husband did etc.
We put ourselves in positions where we are alone with someone whom we haven’t ensured knows our boundaries, then when they push those boundaries, we let them so that we don’t hurt their feelings, embarrass them or loose a friend.
We don’t have to be floosies, we choose to be whether we realize it or not. Then we make excuses for it, rather than admitting we acted out of emotion or a fleeting desire, made a mistake and didn’t really feel it and all the other dumb fuck things we say that aren’t true, if we could admit or see it.
Clarity on what the relationships in your life mean to you is important. Relationships occur with all things, but hardly any of us forget or mess up what our kitchen table means to us, how we feel about it or what we should do with it.
I recommend the genius spirits for pretty much all things regarding becoming a better person, reaching your potential as an individual, discernment in an in all areas, getting to know yourself, and otherwise getting it together.
@Kristian does this help fix it? I think working on the self is a very valid form of magic.