Something I noticed, is that some people who practice magic will say that they worked with spirit so-and-so. Other people will say that they used spirit so-and-so. This makes me contemplate our true relationship with the spirits.
By saying, “I used the spirit so-and-so,” I think it implies that we are in a position of command over spirits. In other words, they are on a level underneath us. Meanwhile, spirits are like tools waiting to be implemented for our use. They don’t really get to turn us down unless for good reason, because their purpose is to be put to use - our use, in the case of magicians.
In contrast, by saying, “I worked with spirit so-and-so,” there seems to be an implication of collaboration; that spirits have the option of saying no to us, and are free to exist whether or not we put them to use. In this way, humans and spirits, as teammates, are more equal than master and toolkit.
Which phrase - use or work with - resembles your relationship with the spirits, if any, and why?