Alright thank you. I will go head and do that.
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@DarkAscension i was homeschooled too.
Abeka Academy?
Pm and i will send you resources to help out and do some energy work with you. Maybe not tonight, def tomorrow
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Okay thanks.
You should PM me i am not a member yet.
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No i just was homeschooled by my step dad.
I have two more months of school and i am done with high school.
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You cN call on spirits to empower you to be more social and less awkward. Baal, Camio, Piamon. That should do it. And also sometimes you just have to get out there and make friends.
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I wasn’t homeschooled but I am very nervous when it comes to various situations thanks to years of bullying at school and pretty much being told by everyone I wasn’t good at anything. I don’t know the spirit to talk to to help, maybe Lucifer? I ended up in a job that meant I had to go up to people (retail sales) and after quite a few years I was in the top 4 in sales in the state even though it’s one of the smallest stores and top 10 in the country, and not just in one company, in every company I work for. I think sometimes if you know you have a failing you push yourself harder to compensate. I am still very nervous when it comes to talking to women though. Rosier helped me with it yesterday.
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Try vipassana meditation, there are two schools of it, try the body scanning school of S. N Goenka. Basically you have certain type of negative emotions in your body mind unit that needs to be cleansed. So that you can break the pattern you are in. Then go out and just talk to people, don’t take the endeavour too seriously, take it as video game, doesn’t matter if you lose, figure out where you went wrong and try to correct it next time.
Taking this attitude of everything being a fucking video game not only makes you detached ( believe me, it’s one hell of a desirable quality, ask any spiritual dude or even clinical psychologist) it helps you in many other ways, many of them being spiritual/supernatural.
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I think many of us here have this same issue. Wheen i was younger I was terribly shy. I could be in a room full of people and disappear… and if someone said anything to me i would panick. I think a lot of that was because of abuse and the shadows of past life experiences. It also stemmed from the fact that I was different from the rest of the world around me. They were worrying about dresses, boys and lipstick colors and i was thinking about survival and psychic experiences. We are more connected with other planes of existance. They can not relate to that so it made it hard for me to relate to them. I think we all are in a similar situation. What do I talk to them about when I see things so differently? I would not even feel comfortable at family gatherings.
How did I fix that? Well. Shadow work for one thing. You have to accept you for who and what you are. Figuring out what things you are harboring from past lives and dealing with that helps. This is a lot of self reflection and inner discovery meditation. Remembering is hard but it helps.
I had to work on me and my personality. Who am I and what do I want to be? How do I make others feel around me? I studied a lot of things so I can talk a little bit about a lot of different things. I think they call that jack of all trades master of none? So that way you can carry a conversation at least a little bit. Get a hobby. Something you get joy from doing. Then you will meet people who share that interest and you can make aquaintances there. Some may turn into friends.
I am still shy. It took me how long to even talk here? Lol! It is not easy, but if you don’t try your situation will never improve. You have to kick your own ass out if your comfort zone and try something new. Instead of going right at the end of the street like you’ve done for 10 years, today go left. Try new things. ACT like the person you wish you were and the emotions and mental attitudes will follow the actions.
You know. We always think these other people are so popular and they never have any problems shining, but when you look, and ask you find out they were sick before the event. They suffer massive social anxiety too and vomit or get sick before every “performance.” The difference is they don’t let their fears dictate their behavior. The change begins with you, and a smile. You can do this.
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This ×10. Practice makes permanent, and expanding your comfort zone bit by bit is one of the best ways to decrease your social anxiety (alcohol and other drugs do work, but their prolonged use can rapidly lead to addiction and other health issues). Meditation and deep breathing can help calm your mind when the anxiety gets too overwhelming, too.
I was homeschooled up until high school and have had similar issues with social anxiety, so I can definitely relate.
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If all the good advice above seems overwhelming you can try listening to subliminal audio tracks on YouTube. They work and work faster if you calm your mind while listening to them.
And always start small and pat yourself for making effort to talk to strangers. Also look directly at the rising sun early morning and ask for strong self worth and self esteem, over time you will see a huge difference.
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I’d also suggest changing little things too. As Nikki said go left instead of right but literally.
Take a new route home or to work one day, go to a different grocery store a couple times a month.
Small things like this helped me to mentally prepare for quick changes in my life and I continue to do this kind of thing to help keep from slipping back into the “stay home all day” rut.
I’d take the advise given here too for entities to contact but physically opening the door and just looking out can help push the magic in the way you want.
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I used to get my ass handed to me in school and was a complete doormat in life. Then one day I snapped and got a “who the fuck are YOU?” attitude with people. It was like a switch. Ever since , I’ve taken the power in situations and hold myself high. Why be nervous or care what people think? Most people are super flawed and shitty. The only place I take more than I should is in love. And as of late even that’s changing. But even there I’ve been a switch - I’ll take a few hits but when I get up it’s over. There’s an insecurity you have and you have to break it. Nobody, and I promise you NOBODY in this world is any better than you. Take your power back.
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I’m still pretty insecure but my anxiety is gone. What helped me was just realizing that sometimes you’ll suck in social situations and that’s okay. Let yourself suck. No one is going to tear you a new asshole and even if they did, how bad could it be? Another thing that helped me feel safer in public was realizing just how vicious I actually am.
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Are you meditating daily yet?
I was the shy kid in the corner for years growing up for various reasons, then I put myself forward for the school play and ended up in the main part, which meant remembering lines in front of a town hall full of people at age 11. The more I step out of the zone the easier it makes that part. I ended up getting a job in retail because I had no money and needed a job. I had to go up to people and start talking even though I hated it. It used to make me sick. Then it got easier the more I did it. Over the years I got to the point where I top sales in Australia in whatever company I work in. Deep down I still hate it, but I got to a point where I actually like talking to people. What was my point? Oh yeah, I learned to control the fear and overcome what I naturally feel. I still feel the same going up to women I am attracted to and asking them out but I am working on it.
I highly recommend using a kunzite crystal as a pendant over your thymus gland for anxiety and phobias.
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It seems like we have the same user picture as me. Lol.
There are a lot of great tips to help you out with your social anxiety.
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Soror,
Our path is one of becoming and calls for action on our part. Joining Toast Masters (or similar) can help. At Toast Masters you can get up before a group of people you don’t really know and make a complete arsehole of yourself. As a Magician you’ll learn that no bones get broken and vastly more importantly, that you can laugh at yourself. Atu 0.
Before you go out on the town make an oath from yourself to Yourself that you’ll find and talk to two strangers, even if it’s only about the weather. ‘I was always taught that you shouldn’t talk about other people’s goldfish or the weather, but hasn’t it been [describe weather]?’ When I’m at supermarket checkouts where all the high-gloss, trashy magazines are situated and a woman picks up a gaudy one I sometimes say (depending on whether I’m up for it), ‘Don’t believe anything you read in that. That story they printed about me about thirteen months ago…about me and that woman…and that other woman…at that place. I only found out because a friend alerted me. By then it was too late. They never contacted me…or the two women or the other women who were also there…Anyway, if you want to buy it it’s matter for you…’
I’m not saying don’t use what a lot of people narrowly construe as Magick, just that you’ll need to work Magick upon yourself. It’s a requirement of our path.
Lay down on carpet, rug or hard floor. No pillow. Sigh three times like you’ve just lost everything and everyone in the world, then relax your toes, feet, leg muscles, knees and your entire legs. By this time your feet have probably un-relaxed, so deeply sigh three times and start again at your feet. The aim is to get to your head with the whole body relaxed. A first sign is falling asleep during the exercise. Eventually you’ll be able to sigh (consciously or elsewise) and induce instant relaxation as a learnt reflex action - anywhere.
Al.
P.s. I know. I’ve actually done all of this stuff.
Your first source of help should be to read self help books or seek help from a specialist.
Magic and spirit help, is for the issues that can’t be sorted through normal, everyday avenues.