People tend to like the big fish-little pond effect as it feeds them with hubris, which itself promotes the Dunning Kruger syndrome and its illusory superiority.
You will identify this group of people easily as they tend to ultracrepidarianism.
I know what that words meansā¦ 
Itās not about choosing someone below you. Itās whatās there. You donāt choose people coming into your life. You choose to interact with them. She is the one that came into my life after prayers to have someone special come to my life. It took a year of repeat message from universe before I notice that something has to be done to connect with her. I donāt work daily ,however, every time she comes iām there present. she kept repeatedly come to the place i work at which she rarely comes to this store as she donāt live around there. People come and go, however, cuz of her surgery, that was another sign. Iām into healing. Certain signs are related to your interest. Thatās how i know something is there.Universe send someone with your interest. her looks wasnāt my focus. It was her energy. I try not to be picky. If you are, then you wonāt see whatās in front of you. I accepted the possibility that one must explore and not judge person. I use intuition with her looking for signs that something is there, Not just interact with just any stranger. Intelligence can be taught. will and drive canāt. problem was sheās surrounded by negative influential family/bf. they support her but donāt know how. Since they all are not educated , they have different beliefs. she rejected me not cuz of my belief, itās because of her belief. big difference. Iām very understanding and tolerable to those i care for. Itās the social conditioning that I couldnāt break from her due to 3rd party influence to not interact with me. Basically i didnāt have much time to share or work on her to open her mind. It is what it is. I have patience, it wasnāt building up. I choose to call out on her mistreatment. It was not out of nonawareness. I was careful in my decisions and gave plenty time for her to self correct. I was aware of possibly offending her when i call out her mistreatment and took the risk that things can end. I just didnāt know that it was 100% accurate to the hour of synchronicity of astrology date. astrology explains perfectly the timing of why that happened. If you read my other post somewhere, then it tells you bit more about situation with her. There is no must when you meet people. IF they are willing to learn, they can grow spiritually. Her case is a big project since she is recovering from brain surgery. That in itself make things tough. ITās probably one of the cause for her to run away as she forgets the connection she has with me during the getting to know each other stage . she probably transfer feelings for me toward her bf too. I can see that. transference.
I read her chart and its compatible with mine. I notice those iām attracted to have compatibility with my astrology chart. Saves me time in knowing their personality. Certain things they need to work on, however, they can be stubborn to learn. some need to learn the hard way. this is her case. she choose the tough route. You know how it is. you canāt help those who donāt want to be help. they must learn on their own.
Thatās all the past. Iām ok with conflict and go with flow. We must strive for bettering future. Canāt get hung up on rejection. Like I said, I accept what happen cuz it brought me to explore magick more and maybe something fruitful will happen with magick.
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I had two minor occurrences, doubly minor because they happened online and no relationship aroseā¦ BTW I mentioned having unusual interests such as magickal evocations, and the woman I was talking to replied āYes, very unusualā; another time I defined my interests as spiritual, obtaining the response āSpiritual?ā, so for good measure I clarified my approach of student/researcher, certainly not a sect member or such.
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Yup, I think you hit it spot on, thanks and good advice.
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So I realized that I started getting the attention due to going the magick route so why not find the right one via the magick route rather than just doing magick to bring potential partners. So almost immediately I found one that itās going perfectly with so far, it hasnāt really gotten past the pure animal sexual desire but I will say she is the most I have ever been attracted to anyone and sheās DTF!!! Iām hoping we will connect on more levels but as of now the root level, the base level to begin at is the sexual and this one is hitting the highest mark ever on that aspect. As far as sex is concerned Iām smitten with her. Donāt really know much about her intellectual aspects, her political leanings, her spiritual philosophy or any of that yet or if itās going to be emotionally satisfying but itās definitely got the sparks for it to ignite happening. Sheās much younger than me only 25 I feel like Iām robbing the cradle but damn her body is youthful and perfect! It was definitely a wise idea to do the magick because itās gotten me this far. Now I just need to see if we make it past the sexual part into the deeper levels. Iām really hoping for it.
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Iām sorry to hear about your recent disappointment Adam.
By the way youāre venting; it really does indicate that you invested a lot and cared for her ā at least at some point before noting down all the resentful points about her. Notably, we do live in a pluralistic society in the western world and many other parts such as the Eastern regions, but if it doesnāt work ā donāt apply pressure to why it couldnāt work.
If her mental aptitude does not meet alignment with yours, it is much better that this ordeal is cleared and sorted out immediately. It was good that youāre upfront. My practice is symbolic, and those who are to be known of my practices are apart of that symbolic relationship.
Your depth plunged deep my friend. Do it again, at the right time, with someone else. Weāve all been there bro.
-Howlite
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OK, so itās been a work in progress but Ive been getting all the attention and finding my potentials on Tinder. The original version landed me the girl who couldnāt handle the pagan thing but I did get a lot of matches and have a lot of conversations thanks to this spell. @Astral13 was there for the very first version of the Tinder spell and saw the results first hand as we are friends IRL. Then I took a break from dating to handle some life stuff. Then recently went back on Tinder and at first no luck but then did the spell again and had success again and it landed me dissapointed and making this thread. So I tweaked it and as you can see I found the bombshell Iām talking to now. So the spell has a lifespan of effect. Itās a +12 Charisma D6 duration Lol a little role playing humor there 
But seriously it isnāt permanent, it has to be repeated apparently. But for the time it lasts itās highly effective. Iāve become more public and the details of it are a little bit personal so Iāll give it out via PM.
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Have you tried the forum at all? As anyone ever tried the forum before?
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Hiya OP! Even proclaimed magicians look at me like Iām cut straight from the Loony Tunes when I talk about pretty normal concepts, so, I tend to stay away from magic stuff in most conversations. IME if a person or group is open to the idea, youāll find adjacent thought patterns and belief concepts being brought up in conversation without your mentioning it, which is a good sign for eventual ādisclosureā. Works best when you build up to the whole āI see demon peopleā conversation by way of introducing successively more outlying concepts; youāll want to variate the approach according to your audience, but IME everyone can comment on this question if they think about it, and you can take the discussion from there:
āWhat do you think is beyond the universe as weāve seen it/as we understand it?ā
If they require prompting, refer to the fact that dark matter is just a label on something we donāt understand, and that the edges of the universe as our technology has thus rendered are undoubtedly not the sum total of what lies beyond earth.
People, if theyāre actually engaged in the conversation, will usually hesitate before answering as they think through it. 
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Ooohhh thatās good thinking m! Iāll definitely use that advice. Thanks
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LOL. i thought quilibrata was replying to my answers. haha. guess it can be answered for both our issues. Itās all good. we learn from feedback even if itās meant for another.
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Sorry man. Thatās y Iāve said I live a double life. That fear of not knowing how this other side will be taken. Besides that, have to say u came off like a poet. As sad as the situation is, I enjoyed reading it. Do u do poetry? I think u could be a good poet. 
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If she canāt handle āpagaensā Then she wasnāt right for you anyway.
Why bring up the weight thing? It just makes you sound shallow and bitter
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It sad people are mean and stupid sometimes or should i said all the Times. Theyāre really good at judging people but never question themselves. Iām shocked that a Guy blocked you. I canāt believe it.
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Totally agree
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Love is hard donāt lose Hope that mean she wasnāt for you. Trust me i know your feelings but Times heal. Youāll find someone perfect for you. Iām sure if it.
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Iām not even looking for love. One of my goal in life was to have someone with special
bond as friend for life that has connection to me. sheās a soulmate friend. I value such friends more than lover relationship.
dale carnegie a famous man that teaches great philosophy of life says to āprepare for the worse, expect the worst and hope for the bestā. Thatās how one donāt get disappointed.
On another note. Itās sad cuz there is no reason to kill our friendship. Could of been avoided if she didnāt get influence by family and her partner as well as social conditioning. Itās not even romance love as she has another partner. People canāt seem to have partner and a friend. she lose out and i lose out. more her than me as iām the one providing benefits more to her than her to me.
And now i have to teach her partner justice through magick and her as well. finally someone to test magick on. guinea pigs. Not revenge, justice. Or to teach lesson that can help them with soul growth. I donāt do revenge. revenge is intent to harm. justice is to teach for wrong doing. Itās also to learn about magick. so iām like killing 3 birds with one stone or something along that saying.
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I brought it up because a lot of people are shallow and for many thatās a deal breaker. For me however it was not, obviously I was dating her so I couldnāt have cared that much otherwise I wouldnāt have dated her. So weight factors in far more for most people than religion and this comparison is what I was making. More men will reject her bases on her weight than any other factor itās just the facts also more women will reject a man who is over weight than most other factors as well. So in the grand scheme of things by comparison she was being really shallow and by most social standards I was being very much the opposite. Itās far more reasonable for me to expect to be rejected for being obese than for my outlook on the universe. But physical fitness is something I take pride in and work hard for but itās not a deal breaker for me if someone else doesnāt take it as seriously as I do.
Iāve already started talking to several girls and not worried about it. I got a body like I belong on the cover of menās health magazine and got pretty good game. Itās not that I havenāt been rejected that pissed me off but more that I was rejected for the fundamental aspect of myself for me magick is a way of life and I guess it hit home far worse than being rejected for something like bank account or looks.
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